Friday, February 5, 2010
I had the privilege of taking my eldest son out to lunch yesterday. I cannot express how much I love getting one on one time with my kids. Captain Crazy amazed me as usual. His conversations are funny, intelligent and oh so honest. He was so excited to have me to himself he could not stop smiling, hugging me, and then telling me he loved me. I have to admit 2 years ago Captain and I were not as close. I think that as a parent sometimes you forget how to transition your relationship as your children grow. Or at least that is what happened with Captain and I. Two years ago I was dealing with a difficult toddler and a new baby all while I was trying hard to get my business to grow. I expected to much from Captain (b/c after all he was the oldest- so I told myself) and I did not love on him nearly as much as he needed. I did not understand why when I picked him up from my moms he seemed to want to stay and on the weekends he would ask to go to grandma's. I was crushed but did not know where to turn.
You know what saved us? Adoption. Crazy thought but it is true. I did not see my relationship with my son as a problem back then at all. And, we were already looking into adopting our 4th. Then in blog world I kept running into this book...
And, this book saved my relationship with Captain. In blogland people were mentioning it for parents that were adopting b/c it is all about attachment therapy. Well, turns out it is for any parent. The thanks I owe to the author of this book because after I read this book my life changed. I see parenting in a new light and the reward (my new relationship with each one of my children) is priceless. If you have not read this book please do. You owe it to your kids!!!
Now moving on... Captain also had open house at school last night. He was so excited to show us all the fantastic projects he had been working on. Captain is an amazing student. He is a grade ahead in math (and is the only student to still have 100% on every one of his math tests), he comes home with 100% on the majority of his spelling and vocab tests, and he goes to a Classical Charter School that is known in the area for their tough curriculum. Besides his main studies his art, music and french are all coming along wonderfully too and he is trying to convince me to let him add theater next year. Proud does not do my feelings of amazement about my son justice. And, to top it off his teacher pulled me aside last night to tell me (as she often does) how pleased she is with Captain and what a fantastic student he is. But, this time she also told me that when the class gets in trouble she can't even look at Captain b/c she knows he never has anything to do with it. I am so blessed to be this boys mama. And, I am also blessed to have these other two cuties too!!!!